RELATIONSHIP

Dating is a time for people to enjoy knowing and learning more about their partner’s character and personality without having the expectation on how things should turn out to be. I prefer to take things slower because I believe it helps making the relationship stronger by building a strong base step by step from the beginning.

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I’m really stressed out in my relationship when it isn’t even that solid yet. I don’t have a clear perspective anymore on how much I really like this person.  I’m not sure if my relationship is moving too fast because I started to feel more and more uncomfortable with the rules he sets for the relationship. Everyone is flawed, but to me everything about him is almost perfect to me, if there’s one thing I really need to talk about, I wish he could tone his speech down a little bit every time when he talks to me. Still, not a big issue anyway I still love him a lot. It just that sometimes it’s quite hurtful to know that you’re not as important as his priorities in life even if it makes sense rationally. I don’t want it to sound unreasonable but I feel like I’m always second best. I just feel unimportant compared to his family and his cousins but I’m not saying this is something bad. Sometimes you just can’t help feeling this way.

The more we know each other the more I feel like he always wants to be on top of things and only like hearing the sound of his own voice rather than mine and this constantly making me feel less like a partner and making my feelings sound less important than his priorities in life. It takes two to tango, everyone is raised differently and certainly their priorities are different and neither of them should expect change from each other. But again, a priority is depends on circumstances. I willing to give in anything but I don’t feel the same to him. It’s not a compromising anymore if you’re the only one doing it and giving him exactly what he wants without getting what we need in return. I just don’t want to upset him by telling him what he doesn’t like to hear.

Now that i have been introduced into the family, this is certainly adding more stress and pressure into the relationship because it’s no longer one side’s feeling that I have to take care of. 

Sometimes in life we just want to feel better in a relationship no matter how much you love this person and if they cared and loved you enough they would spend time listen to you and willing to accept that you aren’t ready for certain things yet in a relationship. People eventually leave and find someone better who can make them feel good.